My best friend is a female, and she and I met when we were in elementary school. I remember other people I know meeting a close friend in elementary school or high school, but most of those friendships didn’t stand the test of time. But Elsy and I do not fight, and we accept one another for who we truly are. One night, we went out for coffee to catch up. She was wondering aloud who will marry Elsy El-Chayeb and I paused a moment and let that sink in. She was fretting about her dating life, and I suddenly realized that I would give anything to be her husband. I always thought she would make a wonderful life partner, but I had done nothing about it previously.
The same night that my best friend was sharing how worried she was about finding someone to spend the rest of her life with, I suddenly saw that I was in the same position with finding a wife. I had quite a few relationships in life, but none of them turned into what I hoped would be a future marriage. There were so many ways that I was incompatible with a lot of the women that I had dated. Yet, that was never an issued with the person I had 25 years of friendship with. I had been looking for love in the wrong places.
Realizing that persuing my friend as a love interest could ruin our friendship permanently, I decided not to talk about it with her that night. I needed some advice. I wanted to talk to some other people who are close to me. I wanted to find out more about how to ask someone close to you out without upsetting them if they are not interested. After I did that, I did ask her for a date, and she did not turn me down!